There are times when we see things clearly and there are times when see do not see situations realistically. I am sure we have all experienced situations where we notice our friends are not seeing things clearly, we try to explain it to them, yet they cannot see what we see (often until it is too late).

Admittedly, it is harder to see things clearly while we are experiencing them. Often…we do not look at the signs around us so we can see things clearly.

Have you ever wanted something but, when told the amount of work it would take to achieve it, you decided you did not want it “that bad”? I have. An example, when I was younger I wanted to be a doctor, until I realized how long I would have to go to school, and how I most likely would still worry about my patients even though my shift was over. I enjoy helping people but that was too much of an investment for me, so I left it alone.

Everyday I see people who want to have millions of people reading their site or using their apps, but do not want to put in the work to achieve that success. They think they can spend a couple of hours a day maximum and have a site that everyone wants to read.

Let’s look at what it really takes to have a successful site.

Let’s say you go out with co-workers (or friends) and the group decides to split the check. Except, when the check comes, you are asked to pay $20-40 more than your order would have cost if you had separate checks.

What do you do?

When you’re young retirement seems and is a long ways off. I’ve found that many people have unrealistic views about retirement. Most do not sit down and figure how much would be needed to retire at the magical number they picked. Nor did they think about the decisions they make throwing off their plans…for decades.

Realistically…can you retire?

Social networking tools are being used more and more every day. Unfortunately, what people do not realize is that by using these tools, they are creating a personal brand. A personal brand is simply what people think of you when your name is mentioned.

For those that do not realize they are creating a personal brand or worse, think that it does not matter, they are similar to the people who got themselves in debt when credit ratings first came out.

The penalties of not listening I suppose. Anyway, let’s talk about it what is really going on with social media.

It’s an interesting term, “noob”. Sometimes it is used to mean lacking intelligence or common sense. Other times it is used to mean “new at something”. However, the term can’t be accurately used to describe someone screwing up at something they’ve been doing for a long time. For example, someone using the internet for over a year can’t say they are new, as an excuse for doing something inappropriate.

Let’s look at an example of how thinking before doing something or using common sense can go a long way in stopping embarrassing interactions.

One of the toughest jobs of being a parent is making the right decisions for our children. Understandably, it can be difficult sharing happiness with the children. Unless one is happily married, the question arises: When is the appropriate time to introduce the children to the boyfriend or girlfriend? This question came up with a friend of mine. He wanted to introduce his girlfriend to his children during Spring Break. I (and my other friends) asked him if he wanted to marry the girl. He responded that the relationship was not at that point. Nor was it to the point to move in together. We suggested he wait.

We ended up seeing several psychologists and gained their perspective on when the appropriate time is, and more important, why the time they recommended was the appropriate time. It definitely places the spotlight on the parent and what he or she is willing to do for the optimum well-bring of their child.

In the last article I spoke making mistakes and moving past those mistakes. In this article, I go into more detail explaining why people usually fail when trying to recover from their mistakes and the key to truly overcoming bad times due to bad decisions being made.