You ever have one of those times when you want to accomplish something but you have several ways you can accomplish the goal? In determining the right path, you want to pick path #2 (for example) but you (for some reason) do not think it will work out right, so you take #1…only to find out you could have picked #2 and been fine? If you are like me, when you figure that out, you want to smack yourself for not seeing it in the first place.
I started talking to Bill online recently and while looking at his site, I noticed he wrote in a lot of places. You can read for yourself what went down with that. Let’s fast forward to what I’m writing about.
So I’m doing my thing, talking about his site and I mentioned some plans I wanted for integrating video on Tyme Said (nope, not telling what that is yet) and how I couldn’t go path #2 and felt forced going path #1. That’s when he told me, matter-of-factly, “Oh, you could do that”.
Time stopped. Haha, Tyme stopped. Literally.
But you know me, playing it cool, I casually inquire what Bill was talking about? Bill told me:
1) I could do what I originally wanted.
2) Told me WHY I came to my original conclusion.
3) Gave me tips on how to accomplish my goal.
Bill is an Emmy Award Winning Video Editor so there was no question in my mind he knew what he was talking about, and grateful for the knowledge, I happily absorbed it. I kept thinking how much further along I would be if I went with my original plan, then I realized why things worked out the best way.
Even if I went with my original plan I was still missing important pieces of the puzzle, so the end result probably would not have been that great.
Talking about video more with Bill, I realized things I hadn’t thought about in a long time, which prompted me to totally re-work my plan. I’m still putting the pieces together but this time I know the puzzle will, with my consistent effort, come together nicely because everything integrates better now than with my original plan.
My point in writing this? When I questioned Bill about his site he was open to hearing what I had to say. When Bill corrected my thought process I was open to hearing what he had to say. There are some people who are closed-minded, who might need guidance, assistance, (insert whatever word works for you here) and refuse to listen. Or was listening and stopped for a dumb ass reason. Either way…no one can help you if you are unwilling to help yourself.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to finish working on Tyme Said and think about the dream I had last night. I was in this video….
I hope you do more video Tyme. I think you’re perfect for it. Bill seems like a cool dude. Congrats on the Emmy.
So right Tyme. I had to push people off because I was doing more than they were! Emmy? That’s cool. Whatever it takes to get you in video. Keep giving her the tips!
I just went through a similar experience. My friend broke something down for me that was obvious once i thought about it. I wasn’t down at first but I see it now. Knowledge is power.
FINALLY! Love you and I am excited about you doing video! Mr. Cammack looks very familiar. I enjoyed his writing and helped me understand my own plights with blogging.
Cheers to you sweetheart, you’ve been thinking about this a long time. Glad you found out what you needed to know. What did Bill win an Emmy for?
Took me a second to realize that Bill is all of the guys in the second picture. I like that. Slick.
Seems like he gave you the answers you needed. When will you learn to follow your gut? I really enjoyed his writing. I’m going to subscribe.
YAAAA on videos! I’m sure it’s worth the wait sweetheart. Yes, Bill does look familiar. I remember handsome men. He said you all businessy, he knows you well Tyme! {{{{{{XOXOXOXOX}}}}}}}
I’m with everyone else. Bring on the video! To the point of your entry, yes, you have to accept you’re wrong to make it right.
You know I love you girl. Congratulations on figuring out whatever you were talking about. :=) That bottom shot is cool. How long did that take to make?
Accepting error is hard. I had to admit the project I planned wasn’t going as planned. Very hard for me to admit.
#11 Humiliating in a professional way.
Tyme why didn’t you follow your first instincts?
I’ll see if I can Bill over here to answer some of your questions.
Why didn’t I follow my instincts? I honestly thought I couldn’t. I had the wrong perception of what a company’s offerings were. Bill pointed me in the right direction because, well, he’s an expert lol.
DatingGenius is genius. Have the two of you thought about teaming up? That might be better than ST. He nailed some shit. Guys check it out.
ONLY DATE PEOPLE BETTER THAN YOU!!
I’d tell you to write that down but finding a man BETTER than you ain’t easy, so I’ll tell FELICIA instead!
(((((RUNS)))))
Good advice. Why didn’t you mention DatingGenius Tyme?
Guys that want Tyme:
http://billcammack.com/2007/12/16/got-a-crush-on-a-celebrity/
http://billcammack.com/2007/12/23/celebrity-crush-part-2/
Give it up chumps!
I read some of them and it would be very interesting to see a woman’s response to some of those.
Bill is smarter than most men. Much smarter. Probably why he has an Emmy. :/ Tyme, what you said made sense. You were missing things you needed to go forward. That is why people fail, it isn’t their time yet.
Ping pong Tyme! I have no doubt you’ll figure things out. Dating Genius is pretty fly. That would make kick ass site. Two more than average people sharing their take on relationships. Maybe with some video.
I can’t think of a website like that. There might be one but there can’t be much competition.
That would be dope! Tyme, pick some of Bill’s ish and do a response on Tyme Said.
Tyme, get one of these and smack it: http://blip.tv/file/286613
Damn, they play like a movie. One right after the other. Nice.
Ya’ll, the picture where Bill is in it more than once is a video!
http://billcammack.blip.tv/file/585591/
Tyme, you and Scrivs messed up telling your numbers. Shame, shame.
http://billcammack.blip.tv/file/185206/
The irony of that video can’t be missed.
Love the idea for a collaboration! And Tyme doing videos. How long have we been waiting for that? When it comes to accepting mistakes some people don’t have it in them. Continuing to do wrong when they know they can do better.
LMAO I want to see that movie now. Tyme, what were you thinking when you saw that clip? Women always ask the number but never like the answer.
I think Tyme asks what the number is to see if the man has enough guts to tell the truth. When I told her my number she told me to show her what I learned and it wasn’t a problem but damn, I was sweating and I think I shaved 10 off LOL.
Props two you both on your successes. Bill wrote what many frustrate over and who hasn’t experienced what Tyme wrote about? Thank you both for sharing your experiences.
I have something to do at work tonight. Ladies always the number and I’m straight up about it. I was impressed with Tyme’s number. I don’t think I can do video. I’m not THAT secure with my looks.
I ask the number to see if he’ll tell me. If it is no big deal then what’s the problem? I’m not ashamed of my number. I think it’s great Tyme’s number is out there, but then she has a damn good number lol.
Love to see you two do something together. Your positions on issues would make a good blend for a quality website, video, etc.
The discussion is off-topic so let’s talk about this, from DatingGenius:
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Yadda Yadda Yadda Blah Blah Blah EVERY.SINGLE.EFFIN’.DAY, some chick is confused about why a guy keeps trying to kick it to her. It’s very simple. He’s kicking it to you because HE.WANTS.TO.GET.WITH.YOU, *PERIOD*! He’s not interested in what you think about it. He’s not interested in what you have to say about it.
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I feel that. He doesn’t care if he wants sex. I’m going to look on DatingGenius to see if there is a guide on how to tell if a man wants sex or a relationship. I think the man that wants a relationship cares what the woman thinks, right?
Tyme, please do a videos. Please. Can you give a clue as to what they are? What they will be about? Bill, you’re cool. How long have you been doing videos?
Very true about being open to accepting advice. The ego can reject the ideas before the person has the chance to think about them.
ok… WOW! :O This is nutzo!
Thanks off the bat to everyone for their comments and compliments.
Since I didn’t want to reply about a post about ME, I didn’t get to click the box at the bottom that says “Notify me of followup comments via e-mail”, so I just happened to check out Tyme’s site and saw 29 COMMENTS! :O
Sorry I’m late to the discussion. I’ll catch up now…
@Curious George: Thanks for the Emmy congrats and lolol at you digging up that workout video hahaha
@Felix: Yeah, we’ll see what we can do about getting Tyme to do a show
@Marquee: Thanks for your comment about my writing.
I may seem familiar because I have a relatively vast internet presence, and most importantly, 93% of the time, I use the same avatar. That comes in handy for personal branding, because although they might not remember your name, they remember the icon attached to the comment, status update app or social site.
@Octavio: My Emmy is for a documentary I edited entitled “My Take”, which aired on NYC’s Metro Channel. We gave high school students video cameras and they shot footage about their stories and sent them back to us. We chose our favorite four stories and cut the doc around that.
@TheNiceGuy, @Aaron @J: Thanks for the props on the ‘picture’. As Bobbi points out, that’s actually a screenshot from this video. I did a “remake” of Mr. Big’s “To be with you”.
re: DatingGenius/TymeSaid collab, I see that there’s already a conversation jumping off from this post that had NOTHING to do with DatingGenius, so we might have to see about “giving the people what they want” hahaha
@Helene: Thanks for the props and the subscription.
I’ll work on that “sex vs. relationship” post just for you. To briefly explain the point I was making about guys wanting to get on, I wasn’t saying they ONLY want to get on, but I *am* saying that the reason you’re being singled out is BECAUSE he wants to get on. If you keep that in mind, then you won’t be surprised when you say you have a boyfriend and he doesn’t stop trying. He’s already considered that you’re “spoken for”, and that has nothing to do with HIM trying to get on.
It doesn’t matter that you’re in sweats and your hair looks a mess, he’s already determined he likes something about you that makes him want to throw his hat in the ring. My point about the saying and thinking is that all that matters to him is whether he’s going to get what he wants from you or not. I’ll see if I can clarify the difference in my post.
@Felicia: Thanks for the compliment
@SugarDaddy: Good luck that Felicia doesn’t catch you! :O
@Emo: Thanks for reading hahaha
@Kenny Wilson: I’d like to see responses to DatingGenius posts myself.
A lot of people treat them like I’m “laying down laws” or something. It’s not that at all. I’m attempting to start conversations. If people agree or disagree, I’d like to hear it. If someone changes my mind about something I’ve said, I’ll give them their propers and say so, in the same public forum where I made my assertions to begin with. Some stuff I say just to be funny, hahaha but the rest of it comes from personal experience of myself or my friends. My experience isn’t everyones, so the more opinions, the merrier! 
@Bobbi: Thanks for the compliments and the video repost.
@Paige: lol that you found “The Lab”. Thanks for the repost.
Doing a show like that isn’t as easy as it looks. 
@Terence: Rep-Re-Sent! hahaha
… Another thing that’s really dumb about numbers is that they don’t prove anything skillz-wise. If your number is 1, except you’ve been with the same chick for 10 years and tapped that every day, you’re going to have more air-time than dudes that pull different chicks every weekend at the club.
@Hurricane: Video’s not the only medium. You could do an audio podcast……
@Mortimus: Thanks for the props.
I think people run into a lot of roadblocks in relationships merely because they aren’t seeing the playing field properly. Besides getting laughs at my own material and having a good time, that’s what I’d like people to get out of DatingGenius. Open your mind. Open your eyes….
Thanks again, everybody for the comments.
I’ll be sure to pay close attention next time Tyme posts something! hahahaha 
I was talking to my best friend last night about you Bill. We read some of your articles. Thank you for writing about that. I am sure many women will benefit from it.
I have to go to a meeting. I’m going to watch some of your movies to pass the time.
I miss ST a lot, you guys told it like it was but I don’t think Scrivs could stand the pressure. Something that could fill that void would be great!
Bill, Tyme has had over 500 comments. 29 is nothing. :=)
Man, I need to get back in the gym.
Just what I needed, the outtake video. I’m interested in the behind the scenes, how it is made type stuff. I imagine myself doing the same thing in audio, video, I do it with text!
ScrivsTyme has a huge audience, hundreds of thousands. Everyone wanted Tyme to do a video but considering what she went through it was amazing she was doing a podcast everyday. It shows her level of professionalism. If she did a video that’s a story in itself.
That outtake(?) video was hysterical. Had to make sure I was quiet watching it at work. How much time does it take to make those videos? Because most of those females reading the news seem fake.
Bill congratulations on the Emmy. That is a wonderful achievement.
Tyme most people want the work done for them, not do it themselves. :=( And I agree with the rest, please do a collaboration and for God’s sake get on the video! How long have people been asking you to do video? How many years?
Tyme are you seriously thinking about video? WOOT! I love the idea, love it! What will it be about? Will you do a podcast too? You’re the only woman I’ll let my husband drool over her voice lol.
Tyme you amaze me, truly. Such much wisdom.
I looked at some of those videos and I enjoyed them. The workout videos inspired me to get back in the gym!
I think a collaboration is an excellent idea!
re: DatingGenius/TymeSaid collab, I see that there
Bill, 29 comments is small change on Tyme’s site. When she hits a hot topic the comments soar into hundreds. Looking at her site it made me aware of all the people reading but not saying anything. Enjoyed your stuff. Keep it going dude!
Thanks again, all.
@Menthu (38): The numbers on the bottom are the timecode reader (TCR), showing the time on the tape that I recorded. it started at zero, so it took me around 53 minutes to record about 3 minutes’ worth of dialogue for The Lab – Episode 02:
I see the difference now. They are reading, not really familiar with the topics, so they can’t adlib. Now I see why Tyme pulls it off better.
I was deep in videos, that’s why I haven’t been commenting!
I enjoyed reading your feedback Bill. Ladies, this is powerful:
“If he
#15 – LMAO I’m taking notes on that but it would be so much easier if men didn’t lie to me. Soooo much easier.
#24 – Haha, I didn’t mess up. If I didn’t tell my number ya’ll can add lol. And yes Paige, I looked at that and thought, “haha, no WAY!”.
#25 – They got that clip from listening to ST.
#26 – Yeah, I’m sort of amused wathing the guy squirm…and get an idea of how many ex’s are going to be a PIA later.
#27 – Thank you.
#28 – Thank you…just being me.
#30 – Honestly, I have a lot of ideas going through my mind but I want it to be something people can look at and relate to. Not the news stuff you see now.
#36 – Some women freak out over the number and guys? Wow, when a man is interested in you (really interested) he just doesn’t want to be bothered with the men before him. Doesn’t want to think about it in the least. Of course, I think if he feels that way he should clean the ex’s out of his life so the woman has the same experience but it rarely works out that way.
#40 – I know, I don’t mind the work. When I am doing something I am passionate about, it is not work.
#43 – Thank you. I’m blushing. I look back at that time and I can’t help but be proud of how far I’ve come. Since I’m supposed to be dead and all lol.
Thank you everyone for the encouragement to do videos. I know you’ve been waiting for it for a long time. It’s getting there!
Thinking about it, I have to agree you are wise to take control of the number situation. You are right, we can add and by being honest about it, you have the strong position. Smart lady you are.
I concur on your strength. I don’t think I could have continued to be professional with everything you went through. I have no excuse to slack, do I?
Bill, I read your article and I agree. The women I want for more than a screw I am very interested in them personally. Ladies, that could be your sign.
I’m starting to appreciate video more after watching Bill’s for the a couple of hours. The time flew by but it was worth it. I can spot trash better now. Thanks Bill!
Regarding men interested in relationships, I agree although I didn’t think of it in those terms before.
Bill is the best. Looking forward to seeing your video, you are in good hands.
A Real Fan!
Tyme, I can’t wait for your video. No pressure but I have no doubt it will be more than worth the wait. You have an advantage over the other women that try and fail because you have professionalism, you were taught growing up how to handle yourself, and you don’t mind hard work.
I remember the same question came up on ST. I like Bill’s answer better. Scrivs said a man spending time with a woman but he’ll spend time with a woman for sex. It’s possible I will feign interest in a woman for sex but it won’t be long. Too many options out there to waste time.
I’ve been watching movies all day. It’s 3pm!
I read Dating Genius, looked at some videos, saw the one at the gym and felt guilty for not going. Just got back from the gym. No work for me because I’m through.
We’re talking about this at work. The whole shebang.
1) Ladies WANT to know the number but they don’t have a good reason why other than Tyme’s just seeing if he will give it up. The women in this office care about the number where Tyme doesn’t.
2) Men NEVER want to know the number because he knows he won’t like it.
3) None of the people in this office like the videos telling the news so Tyme, please don’t do that, even though you might be the first black lady doing it.
4) The men agree that they inquire about more personal things with the women they want more than sex with.
5) Videos are the next media to make the splash on the internet but we think this will have more staying power than audio because of being able to see the people and putting it on TV.
We’re still talking because that is what work is for on Hump Day.
No worries about me doing the news. Not my thang….
I’ve been reading and watching videos a good portion of the day. I have lots of thoughts but the bottom line is that Tyme is just too good for the average man which is why she’s single. The average female needs to user her brain instead of her heart. Men use their dick as an excuse for the jacked things they do but they do those jacked things because he has not encountered the right female.
The ladies making videos are trying to reach their dream but if they were open to the opinions spoken of their performance they would realize they were making a mistake. Internet video is boring, Tyme spice things up!
Admitting a mistake is tough but it’s honorable.
I had to admit I was doing something wrong this week and it hurt because I had to start all over again. I learned for the next time though.
Mr. Cammack I enjoyed watching your videos. I did not view them all because there are so many but I enjoyed the ones that were more about you. Not knowing who those people were in the other videos I skipped those.
I enjoyed reading Dating Genius. Understanding that men don’t care what I think clears some things up. Like everyone else I poked around the site. Tyme, is Mr. Cammack’s bike like the bike you bought your ex? It looks similar besides the color.
Naw, this is close to it but the one I bought was custom, gold and black, limited edition. I have pictures of it but I don’t remember where I put them.
I recently had to admit my romantic interest was a loser. Unfortunately I really liked him and I bragged about him to my friends. Hard to admit to myself I was wrong and adding everyone else makes it harder.
I ask women their number because it is an indicator of what she will do with me. Not a golden rule but an indicator. It is true that she doesn’t have to tell me the truth but I only care about the number on women I want to make my partner. The truth will come out when she talks about her ex-boyfriends.
I can imagine Tyme thinking, “what did you just say?” when Bill told her she could proceed as planned. I had a moment like that a couple of months ago. I did not want to accept it at first because it was too good to be true.
Tyme, one of the reasons why you said you didn’t want to do video was due to the problem of finding things. You said you’d have the same problem you had with your audio files, finding things. Do you have a way to combat that now?
The number comes out eventually if you stick with the person so why not tell it? I think Bill’s approach only works if the pairing is temporary.
“But you know me, playing it cool, I casually inquire what Bill was talking about?” Always playing it cool girl.
Tyme, you said you had to re-work you plan. Does that mean you have to start from the beginning or you just had to make adjustments?
Tyme I’m glad you are doing videos. Your professionalism, passion and personality make you a winner for it. A relationships dual with Mr. Cammack is an excellent idea that would give you both more exposure I would think. You two would not be doing the normal relationship stuff. When I read DatingGenius and I’ve read your stuff before Tyme you talk more about psychology than strategic plans.
I recently met a woman online through Twitter that I think might be a worthy woman for me to hang my long-time bachelor status for. We’ve been talking via instant messenger and she seems read and incredible. There are pictures of her online, she seems to be open about herself, has a web site, etc. We haven’t talked on the phone or really talked about anything personal and I can’t think of a way to move to the phone without giving away I like her more than a chat buddy. There isn’t a reason for us to talk on the phone and I don’t want to scare her off. I can walk up to a woman anywhere but this woman I am anxious about the things I do. DatingGenius, do you have any advice? Tyme, would you push a man away if he wanted to talk on the phone? It would mean giving up her phone number and some women hesitate on that. Thanks in advance.
Tyme everyone makes mistakes like that. I read your blog because I understand where you are coming from an I learn something while being entertained. A collaboration would be highly enjoyable e think because it seems the two of you are not the average dreebs online. I read a couple of the dating geniuses, agreed with what I read. I can’t think of a curve but I know Tyme could throw one from the ladies point of view, making it unlike anything found on the internet right now.
No one can help you if you are unwilling to help yourself: Preach! I’ve tried to help family and friends and the situations turned from me helping them to me putting in all the effort. Can’t avoid ugly situations in those cases.
We were talking about this at work. Tyme has an interesting problem. Because of who she is and what she will one day become the usual pool of the men out there aren’t going to fit. Should I be sad I don’t have that problem?
Women want to know the number so they know how many women might pop up and try to make their life miserable. For real! Why don’t fella understand that things didn’t work for a reason? I view it as keeping trash around. Even Tyme admitted her ex’s were causing her problems and she had to fix a situation, right? I ask the number than I immediately ask how many of them he still talks to. If THAT number is too high I’m gone.
@Cool Guy (66): Why would the number eventually come out? It seems to me that you’re implying that once you hook up with someone, you’re not allowed to have your own personal information to keep to yourself….. Did I misinterpret that?
@SlightlyScared (69): Wait a minute. You said you’re already IMing with her. You’re worried about taking it to the telephone? Forget the phone. IM services come with voice capabilities now. If yours doesn’t have it, wherever she is in the world, you can talk to her via audio or video on Skype for FREE!
ViperGirl (72): Depends on what type of man you want to call your own.
SlightlyScared (69): I’m not the norm because I have number(s) I could give you that are just vanity numbers masking the “real” number. Personally, I would do what Bill suggested, Skype or use voice chat on IM. If that goes well, move to phone, video chat, meeting, etc.
Kitty (68): It’s more like a new realm of possibilities have opened up that I would not have done before.
Chris (65): Tagging rules!
I almost hate Amanda Congdon because she started the internet news fiasco. Now everyone is doing it. I’m tired of it. Have you noticed the news isn’t good news, it’s some off shit no one cares about or something I already heard. Sxephil does a great news show but he’s doesn’t read.
She doesn’t have a computer at home so I can’t talk to her at night. She’s saving to get another one. I chat with her during the day but she can’t put a microphone on the computer at work. That’s why I want to move to the phone. Any ideas?
Interesting plight. If you haven’t been chatting with her long and she does not trust you, odds are she would be uncomfortable with that.
Do you have a TV show in common? If you do, why not ask her to watch it with you as “fans” of the show? As friends. Offer to give her your phone number and she can block her number from showing up on the caller ID.
@SlightlyScared (69): I didn’t read your comment properly when you posted it. A LOT OF STUFF has been going on over the last few days.
IMO, you’re trying to ‘sneak up on her’, which is ok as a tactic, and WIIIIDELY used by guys. I think you should consider that there are going to be two phases to your relationship with her… BEFORE she finds out that you like her and AFTER. What you’re trying to do isn’t necessarily the best thing for your rap. It’ll keep you in the game longer, but that’s only because it’s delaying the moment of truth.
As long as you feel you haven’t fully expressed yourself, keep it up with the “friends” thing, but eventually, you’re going to have to turn that corner and take that shot. If “wasting” time makes you feel like you’re progressing and your chances at getting the relationship you REALLY want with her are getting better, go right ahead.
If you’ve stalled, however, I say it’s better to take your shot sooner rather than later. Many a dude has lost out on a rap because while he was playing the friend role, a guy who was hungrier to get to the point stepped in and scooped the chick. After that, it becomes “oh, I didn’t know you liked me like that”, which is a JACKED UP position to be in hahaha TRUST AND BELIEVE!
So just focus on turning that corner, and consider WHEN you’re going to do that. If you never do it, you’ll never have that relationship that you want, so put NEVER out of your mind. That means it’s going to happen sometime, so envision that and prepare for it, because once you let her know what time it is, THAT’S when the fun and games begin.
I agree with Bill. Postponing it doesn’t help anything. The moment is going to come eventually. Either she’s into you, or she isn’t.
77 – Take Tyme’s advice and approach her as a friend but you will eventually have to take Bill’s advice and “turn the corner”. When a woman is interested in you she holds a different conversation. You’ll talk about more intimate topics and she’ll want to talk to you on the phone.
I think you should consider that there are going to be two phases to your relationship with her
Tyme, I wanted to let you know I took your advice from waaaay back but I planned it. I started, you know, while he was talking. He said, “what are you doing?” and I was afraid I might not sound that good (I don’t have your voice) but he listened. He was quiet and let me do my thing. I didn’t finish though because I felt like a spotlight was on me. His voice was thick, he sounded so sexy!
That might be something to look forward to SlightlyScared!
I have a video request. Remember on the podcast you and Scrivs were doing the stripcast and the zipper got stuck when you were unzipping your pants? Could you re-enact that scene? Just the zipper part. Or if you have the old podcast from that. It was a hot moment!
I have it bookmarked. It’s at the end. That was fun to listen to.
Drat, forgot to say I agree with the others. SlightlyScared, the ladies do not always give an obvious sign unless she picks up one from you.
Deidre, I wish a woman would do that with me. What a lovely surprise.
I moved the file to this location. One of these days I’m going to remove all that stuff on ST. Riley, you have the clip. I don’t walk back through the past.
Deidre – Congrats!
SlightlyScared, I agree with Bill. What I said will hold you for a minute but eventually you’ll have to put the cards on the table. You know how long you’ve been talking to her, how receptive she is to more personal conversations so you should be able to gauge how receptive she’ll be. Good luck!
Bill…that was excellent advice.
Thank you Tyme! Wow, that was funny. Poor Scrivs, he had a hard time keeping up with you, didn’t he?
89, I think he did. I have props for him because I don’t think I could have done it. In the clip(?) you can hear his frustrations. She’s a female, taking her clothes off. Our minds are wired to go there but she’s his platonic business partner.
80, good advice man.
69, is she in the same city as you are?
That was funny! I imagined him shaking his head trying to get the image of Tyme out.
Bill, do you have any suggestions how SlightlyScared should tell her, since they only IM?
@Jermaine D. (91): In general, I wouldn’t advocate doing ANY rapping solely via IM.
There’s too little information expressed in text for you to have just about any chance of your actual intention being transmitted by him and then received by her.
It’s like playing “the telephone game”, where you whisper something in someone’s ear, and by the time it gets around the circle, it’s a completely different sentence.
If someone *INSISTS* on rapping via IM, unless you’re a psychological genius, take it OFF of IM as soon as you possibly can.
My suggestion to SlightlyScared is to invite her by IM to an IRL get-together that implies a closer relationship than he’s expressed to her so far.
For example, invite her out to dinner. She might agree. She might decline and counteroffer going to lunch. She might agree to go to dinner IF her girlfriends can come along. She might decline and counteroffer an invite for him to join her at some group gathering she’s already planning to attend.
It’s all chess. As far as I can tell, he’s only moved a couple of pawns and maybe exposed a knight. You can’t jump from your opening to your end-game. Mid-game is critical. If you can pull off mid-game strictly via IM, more power to you.
I don’t recommend it.
What if he doesn’t live in the same city? I think it is good advice but how do you bring up the “I’d like to see you but I haven’t talked to you on the phone” topic?
That’s good advice Bill. SlightlyScared does not seem to be too far into the game yet. If she’s in town going out is a good idea but don’t most women want to talk on the phone first? Will they skip from IM to meeting?
I would go with Bill’s advice if she’s local. If she isn’t, then you’re going to have to take some extra steps.
This is an interesting topic. As popular as socializing has become, I found a couple of women I would like to know better but one stands out more than the others.
You could try video chat. That would be voice and seeing each other. Then move to face to face?
There is a guy I chat with online that I think likes me. We usually talk using aim during the day but I would like to move to a vocal chat.
She does not live in the same state as me. She’s a short flight away vs. being on the other side of the States. Asking her out would mean a plane ride. I don’t mind flying to see her or flying her in to see me but I’d like to have a real conversation with her first.
@Those who speculated this might be a long-distance rap: You were right!
@SlightlyScared (99): I’ll try to make a post about this later tonight. All I can say right now is that I don’t consider online long-distance rapping anything but *practice*. Granted, I have a lot of online female friends that I kick it with, but the chances of meeting them are Slim, and None…
And Slim just left town!
I didn’t imagine that this was a long-distance rap. This is one of the problems with trying to speculate on situations when the facts trickle out bit by bit.
I live in NYC. You literally can’t throw a rock without hitting a chick.
You can find lots of PACKS of 4 and 5 unattached chicks roaming the streets downtown in the village. There’s just about *no* reason to kick it to long distance chicks (meaning living more than 30 minutes away from your house) except to practice your game or test your logic, so I’ll have to think about it and try to get back to you later. 
Congrats Bill, you had the 100th comment.
Depends of what he is looking for, sex or something deeper. Using myself as an example, there are lots of men here, with nice bodies. Sex is ridiculously easy. If I wanted a suitable partner to go through life with me, well, let’s look at it realistically.
I’d have to find a guy who matches my intelligence. The pool shrank.
A man that can handle himself in social situations. The pool became smaller.
A man that is responsible. The pool shrank some more.
A man that is ambitious (doesn’t mind doing the hard work to reach a goal). The pool is almost empty.
A man that is honest. There aren’t ANY men left.
And I didn’t even get to having my minimum requirements of being at least as freaky as I am in the bedroom (hell, I don’t know if that’s possible). I didn’t get to any of the FUN stuff. Or physical attributes.
I’ve depressed myself.
If the guy exists here, it would be like finding a needle in a haystack. The internet widens the pool of men to chose from and if I find him, I don’t care where he is, he WILL be mine.
*reminds herself she needs to start taking applications*
Perhaps SlightlyScared is attracted to her (could be unintentional) because locally no one has grabbed his interest for a more long-term thing. And that’s an assumption on my part because he’s being very careful on “not blowing it”. If it was just sex, he’d make his attempt and if it didn’t work, move to the next one.
Tyme you described something I’m feeling. I talk to Dale online but I find myself thinking about him. I look forward to talking to him. I wonder what he’s doing. I’m not sure when it happened and I’m not sure what to do about it. When I get a direct message Twitter from him or a text message on my phone, I smile. We don’t talk on the phone much because we talk while we work via text. I’d like to.
LMBAO @Tyme. No Tyme, God hasn’t created a man that matches you sexually. Sorry Sweetheart but males would have to be redesigned to keep up with you!
I was listening to the podcast file while reading the comments. I reached the end of the podcast when I read Big Daddy’s comment. It all came into perspective LOL.
Bill and Tyme has valid points. Which one do you want SlightlyScared? Sex or do you want a relationship with her?
Lots of women around me too. Easy to score. I’m not interested in relationships but if I was, I’d be more selective. None of the women I know would be “good” enough to be my wife. Great for sex though.
I want to get to know her better to see. Usually I ask and if the answer is no, I don’t care. This girl I watch what I say, I think about her and her opinion of me matters. I don’t want to mess up.
Funniest part ever: Eypgtian role-play, at the end (9:09). Scrivs laughed so hard he couldn’t breathe. Listening to Tyme describe what she did, I’ve been chuckling since I got to work.
Women are clueless when it comes to men knowing he likes her or if they know, they are waiting for the man to make his move. SlightlyScared, read Bill’s article. It’s very good advice.
I prefer to be knocked over the head with the knowledge he likes me. Too many embarrassing times when a guy threw the like me signs but said i was imagining things.
It would be easier to know where men stood and not be clueless if men were honest about how they felt. It means putting themselves out there and the ladies should do the same (and stop playing games). A lot of mis-communication happens between the sexes.
Enjoyed your perception article Tyme.
What perception article?
My men friends think its a game, the courting, mating, partnering, marriage, all of it. Some are married and love their wives but they view it like chest moves.
Thanks! The article I wrote for 3by9 titled Negative perception and you. I wrote the article yesterday but it posted today.
I’m pleased to hear you will be creating videos Tyme. As others said, long overdue. My question is deeper. Why do you shy away from your destiny? You were groomed as a child for the social situations we experience today. You think quickly on your feet, you are interesting, you have a large respected audience, you are caring by nature, love technology and are unique in that there aren’t many people like you doing what you do. As you say, my question is: why are you moving to Florida instead of New York or California where the environment would make it easier for your to accomplish your goals? If you do not mind the winters, New York is a good match. If you prefer warmth (like Florida) California is your match.
Do you not realize that the women attempting to break into video would kill for a loyal following? And have the looks? And have the personality? And have the social skills? You have a million things you have not done that your audience want to experience with you, do you think that is a coincidence?
If you stopped resisting your destiny that we are all patiently waiting for you to accept, it would be one hell of a wild ride.
I used to listen to Scrivs and Tyme talk about destiny, fate, and karma. I didn’t buy into it until I began following Tyme and I change things in my life. I noticed watching Tyme that she is pushed in a direction no matter what she does. I looked at my life and I opened my eyes, realizing new things about myself. It changed my life.
With video is it like technology? To succeed you have to be in CA, NY or IL?
HERE HERE!!! She’ll end up being like online Oprah. I can’t wait!
@Walter: Yes, I know. Many people have watched me avoid the limelight kicking and screaming but it keeps coming back to me. I have a lot of thinking to do but you are right to some degree about location. I HATED NY but I recently realized that when I was there, I wasn’t really SEEING the city so the negative experiences I had were not representative of the city. I’ll probably take a trip on the downlow and check things out. CA is completely out of the question. I have friends there that are awesome and the weather is great, but I refuse to go broke trying to live my life (too inflated).
@Chandra: I’m glad things worked out for you!
I’m not sure about video. I asked Bill, he said no.
@Amber: HAHA, no pressure there!
And to clarify, the house that I have now would cost 800K in CA. Ridiculous.
That’s progress, you are keeping an open mind! Good for you! Didn’t we tell you that your impression was inaccurate? :=) Go and see for yourself, privately. No one has to know you are there and you can adventure. Vegas is another alternative I did not think of last night.