This weekend I went to a wedding but it wasn’t the wedding I was supposed to go to, that everyone went for. However, it was the wedding that “should” have happened a long time ago. The groom of the first couple realized he was making a mistake marrying the girl and the second couple realized they should be together.

Weird yet so perfect.

Happily Ever After? Not For Them…

The first couple had problems, personality conflict problems. The girl was very insecure, very clingy and has this tenancy of blowing up when she doesn’t get her way. The groom was told once they got married it would stop – she was just insecure about their relationship and being married would resolve that. I suppose standing there, in front of everyone, looking into her eyes he realized he was signing on to a life of her emotional tantrums. He couldn’t say his vows. She was too emotional, he was too laid back. He was the source of the emotions and that would never change as long as she was with him.

Very few people weren’t relieved as we watched him freeze and apologize. There were actually sighs of relief because we all knew it was a train wreck but you can’t stop someone from making their own mistakes, right? They are both “good” people, just not meant for each other.

Grab the Brass Ring…

As we all sat there wondering if a wedding was going to take place a friend of mine, sitting next to me, said he wanted to talk to me privately. We went outside and he explained his plight. Looking at the fiasco that just happened he realized the woman he’s semi-privately loved for years is the one he should be with. The problem was their families. Their families are very old school and would not approve of their union. That didn’t make his love go away. He asked me if I thought he was crazy? I said no – relocate and be happy.

It is really that simple.

Sure, their moms will cry, their fathers will get pissed off. If it doesn’t blow over, and the two have such different views than their family, it is conflict to keep them in their lives anyway. There is a difference between cordial and close.

My friend finds the girl (she’s at the wedding), I suppose told her his feelings, she agreed because shortly after, he sent me a text message saying they were going to the courthouse. Normally, I would advise against getting married on a whim but this couple truly are perfect for each other. Their friendship blossomed into a love with one of the strongest foundations I’ve seen in a long time. I told him if they got married, and it wasn’t too inconvenient, I’d like to be there. He said that would work out good…since they might need a witness.

Instead of getting married at the courthouse they got married the next day a very quick ceremony, in the same church, same pastor without the gown, the elegant wedding, and large reception. They said their vows in front of their friends, who supported their union. They want to have a more formal wedding later, in their new location, with their old and new friends…and hopefully family.

The other couple? The groom realized he dodged one hell of a bullet and talking to the ex-bride later, she agreed (unwillingly). She wasn’t really happy in the relationship because she was insecure and frustrated. Being together would not have resolved the problem, it would have made it worse. What she really wanted for was him to change but if he changed, he wouldn’t be “him”, would he? His laid back nature makes him excellent at what he does for a living – he doesn’t crumble under pressure and eventually everything that needs to get done gets done…”right”. He is just excellent at bringing things together, with quality and class, at the very last minute.

What Did I Learn?

I learned a lot. I heard just about every love song known to man this weekend celebrating, learning and exploring the many faucets of love. Talking to a ridiculously smart, witty and cute guy this weekend about the turn of events (and life in general) I was able to finally put some pieces together that have been irking me for the longest time. Thankfully I was able to have the same impact on him. Talking to strangers can do that.

We sat on the pier and life made sense. You know that odd clarity one receives every once in a while. I understood my WoW issues, I understood why I can’t decide where to move, I understood relationship issues and the freaky thing…I know when Sims 3 drops June 2nd all the little questions I had will be answered. The irony the game was pushed back to June 2nd, giving me a couple of days to play (and put the final puzzle pieces together) just in time to celebrate…then begin to make things happen.

Why Sims 3? Because I’ll pattern the game after my life…it’s what I do with RPGs. I’ll start it off the way my life is now, and I’ll tweak the things I don’t like and make them the way I want. It will be as easy (and possibly shocking) as doing it and sitting back looking at the final result.

Not like I haven’t done this before and haven’t been stunned by what I discovered. Every Sims release results in a life change – and success.